Do Him Good


I have always admired the Proverbs 31 woman. As a young woman then as a young wife I have studied her and aspired to be like her. I always wonder what it would be like to be that awesome of a woman. Strong, creative, wise, godly, giving, kind. She is the whole package. One verse that I claimed years ago is ” She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life” Proverbs 31:12. This is, of course, speaking how she will treat her husband. I decided years ago that I would do my best to never do Shane evil. I don’t talk negatively about him to others…no one. Up until just recently I really thought that by doing that (or not doing that, I guess) I was fulfilling this verse.

I am coming up on my 6th anniversary of being married to Shane. So by now I pretty much know everything there is to know about being married. What? You don’t believe me? Okay, you’re right. I know squat. Every time I think I am getting the hang of being a good, godly wife something else comes along to prove me wrong. But here is one thing that I have learned: not doing my husband evil is not enough. I MUST also do him good.

What is doing him good? Well, the opposite of doing him evil, right? This involves my attitude and thoughts toward him (because remember, even the thought of foolishness is sin.) This involves my (quick plug your ears-or eyes) submitting to him. Yes, I believe that God meant that command when He said it. And, no, I don’t find it offensive. I find it difficult at times…but so is child birth and for some reason I keep doing that.

But what if we went beyond our normal duties of being a “good wife?” What if I purposely tried to be a blessing to my husband? At the back of my notebook I have a list titled “Ways to Bless My Husband.” I wrote a growing list of little things I can do to be a blessing to my husband. I challenge you to make a list and watch it grow. Oh, and actually do the things on the list πŸ˜‰ I challenge you today to not only do your husband no evil, but purposely do him good.

“What if my husband doesn’t treat me right?”

Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21

“I don’t think I can do him good all the time.”

“For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” Philippians 2:13

“He doesn’t recognize or praise me when I do him good.”

” Whether therefore ye eat or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.” I Corinthians 10:31


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10 thoughts on “Do Him Good

  1. This was so good! Thanks for the reminder…it’s live Paul states: “put off… AND put on…” Happy Anniversary early! It’s real soon, cause I remember I was serving in Mexico during your wedding.

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    • That’s a great point and is going down in my notebook next to this study. Thanks! Also, thanks for the happy early anniversary. Yours must be soon, too. I don’t remember the date but I remember it was in August. So Happy early anniversary to you, too!


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